How to Get Out of a Rut

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What's going on guys? Chris Albert here with the Warrior Soul Podcast. And today, I want to talk to you about a subject I brought up on our YouTube channel, the Warrior Soul Agoge. And that is how to break out of a rut. And what I've done is I've laid out six different steps that you can take immediately to to start to get yourself out of that situation, and nothing I'm talking about here will cost you any money.

It's it's stuff you could do right now. And with these six steps, what I'm also gonna do is I'm gonna create a worksheet that you can download from our site and keep with you in your journal, so that you can actually start getting yourself out of that and start putting yourself forward step by step. So I don't wanna delay too much here, guys. Let's get into it. So a lot of times when you have somebody advising you on how to get out of rut or how to get out of being stuck, they'll tell you to sit down and start writing out your goals and to start writing out your vision and all these different things.

And the thing about it is this, if you're in a rut, if you're severely depressed, you feel stuck and a lot of times you don't have it in you to create that vision yet. Right? You need something that's gonna prime the pump, that's gonna get your mind working. And so, what I've done here is I've started with that mind priming exercise that we're gonna need to do, and then I'm gonna bring it back to some of the other stuff that is gonna be more action oriented. So step one, this is the first thing you need to do if you wanna get out of being stuck.

And that is, in my opinion, get moving. Alright? And when I say get moving, I mean start exercising. Alright? So go out there, lift weights, go out there for a run, go get yourself into some physicality so that you can start focusing on the present.

Right? So when you start to get your heart rate up, when you start to exert yourself a little bit, what that does is it helps you to get out of your own head. Because a lot of times when we're stuck, we're we're so busy thinking about ourselves. We're so so busy thinking about, you know, how bad our lives are and and how there is no way forward that, you know, if you just sat down and you just started writing things, it probably wouldn't amount to anything. But if you get moving and you start getting your heart rate up and you start start exerting yourself, like I said, it brings you to the present, but the other thing it does is it actually helps you to release some happy chemicals, some hormones.

And those hormones are gonna help to open up your mind a bit. They're gonna help you to see the possibilities. Alright? Now, I wanna emphasize this. I'm not telling you to that you're gonna go out there and you're gonna do one workout, and automatically, you're gonna start to see all these amazing things, and you're gonna find yourself out of the rut.

No. This is gonna have to become a regular practice. This has gotta be something that you're gonna have to do on the regular. And it doesn't have to mean going to the gym and pumping weights for two hours. It could just mean, you know, trying to get in a 100 push ups a day whenever you're taking a break.

It could mean, you know, going out and getting a walk in every day. But I would highly suggest trying to do something that's a little bit more physically exhausting because that's what's really going to allow you to release some of those chemicals that are gonna get you thinking. Alright? So step one, get moving, get get sweaty. That's going to help you to open up your mind.

Step number two, and this is another big one. Start investing in yourself. And what I mean by investing in yourself, I mean, start going out there and start learning. Alright? A lot of times, when we're stuck, it's because we feel like we should have an answer to our problems inside of us.

And when we can't manifest that answer, that drives us deeper in the hole because we start to feel really bad about ourselves. But the truth is that you don't have all the answers. I don't have all the answers. There's nobody out there who has all the answers. So what you have to do is you have to start getting out there and you have to start learning.

You have to start investing in yourself and you have to begin putting yourself into a situation where you can start filling your mind with the things that you need in order to move forward. Alright? So what am I saying? I'm saying if there's something out there in your purview, right, maybe it's your profession, maybe you're you're having problems with relationships, maybe you're you're trying to learn more about fitness, something out there that you haven't learned about before that you really wanted to learn about, well, start investing in yourself with that. Alright?

And what that's gonna do is it's gonna start to bring new information to your mind, information that you could potentially use to push yourself forward. Alright? Now, obviously, it'll help if the subject matter is related to the the area in which you feel really stuck, you know, for instance, if you feel stuck in your job, maybe you need to learn better interpersonal skills. Maybe you need to get along with your fellow employees and your boss better. Alright?

If you're stuck in your business, maybe you need to learn a little bit more about marketing. Right? But the point is get out there and start learning something. Now that could be from a course. Alright?

But if you don't want to invest the money in a course, there's YouTube. There's tons and tons of stuff out there on YouTube. There's also books, which you don't have to spend a lot of money on. Just go on Amazon trying to find a book that is gonna help you along. Alright?

So you get this new information in your mind, and through that new information, that could lead to new insights as to where you wanna go. Now step three, and I wanna emphasize this, you can't move on to step three until you started to do the first two things. Because step three is extremely important, and if you do it the wrong way, it can send you way down the wrong path. And that is you need to create a vision of where you want to be in life. Right?

You need to have a vision. And everybody says start with vision. I think that in order to to to get to your vision, you have to have possibilities in your mind. That's what the first two steps do. But with vision, what you want to do here is you really want to outline in detail what you want your life to look like.

And I'm not just talking about, oh, I want a million dollars in my bank account or oh, I want to be dating this person or that person. What I want to know is is the details, right? So where are you living? What kind of house are you living in? You know, how big is that house?

Where is that house? Right? Who are you waking up next to when you wake up in the morning? What's your day like? Who are you spending your time with?

What types of things are occupying your time? Is it is it work? What kind of work? If you're dealing with clients, what types of clients are you working with? If you've got a job, what type of job are you you in?

Alright. How are you spending your free time? What are you you dedicating that time to? Alright. I want you to get really detailed here.

And all you need to do is, you know, put on a timer, you know, maybe thirty to forty five minutes, turn on some of your favorite music, break out a pen, a piece of paper, and just start writing. And try to do this as if you're living in a world where anything's possible. Now I know this sounds a little bit woo woo, what you really really wanna get to here is what you actually want. And the reason why you need to get to that is because the way things are, we have so many expectations thrusted upon us. Right?

So a lot of times when you're a kid, parents want you to go down a certain path, you know, your family wants you to go down a certain path, your friends, all these different things. But, what that does is it it actually forces you to live out somebody else's plan without actually thinking about what you ever wanted in the first place. So doing this vision above everything else, it's not like you're gonna manifest something out of thin air or something crazy like that. But what it's gonna help you is it's gonna help you to start to realize what you actually want in your life, and it'll also help you to realize what you actually don't want. And that in and of itself can give you some clarity to get out of the rut you're in.

The next step is is also very important because you need a pathway forward to that vision. And so what you want to do in step four is you want to start to plan. How are you actually going to get to that vision that you just wrote out? How can you make it possible? And so the way I do this is I'll start with what I want, and then I'll start planning backwards step by step by step.

So what was the last thing I had to do before I bought that dream house? And what was the thing before that? And how much money did I have to save each month? And and so on and so forth. And I'll plan backwards until I get to where I am in present day.

And what that does is it lays out a roadmap to that vision that you really, really want. It lays out a roadmap to getting to where you want to go. And because you're planning backwards, that helps you to ensure that you're not missing out certain steps, but it also makes things a little bit more clear. Right? Because if you're just starting at the beginning, start to see that long road ahead, right?

And that you start to get a little bit nervous and you're like, maybe I can't get to this after all. But if you're planning backwards, it helps you to really assess things a little bit better in your head, and this is also gonna help you to chunk things up into more doable steps. Alright? The next thing is this. And and this next part of the plan, you might conflate this with planning, but it's it's very different, and it's scheduling.

And the reason why I'm telling you to do this is because when we're looking at vision, we're looking at some grand thing that we want to do in our lives. A lot of times, we'll sit there and we'll try to swing for the fences. We'll try to try to get everything done in one fell swoop. And that's not how life works. If you want to get anywhere or accomplish anything valuable in your life, you need to take each thing step by step, and you need to instill behaviors and practices into your life that are going to get you there, above all, consistently.

You need to do things consistently. So what kind of work are you putting in every single day to get there? And, you know, understanding what you have to do every single day, but also scheduling it out so that you know on Monday at this time, you're gonna be working on your business, or you're gonna be working on your fitness, or or working on bettering your relationship. Whatever it is, whatever in your vision you're trying to get to, you should be scheduling each aspect of that out. I don't care if it's a half hour a day, an hour a day, whatever it is, you need to schedule some time if you're ever gonna get there.

Alright? And then, finally, you need to take action. You need to take action on step six. Too many people, they'll do the plan, they'll schedule things out, and then they'll back off the commitment to themselves and never actually do anything. You're not gonna get anywhere just by thinking about it.

Alright? And, you know, for all the things that we do to to to try to make ourselves better, meditation, you know, journaling, all this stuff, nothing happens until you execute. So it sounds like the smallest step is probably the shortest thing, but you need to start taking action. Right? It's the hardest thing to do.

Right? And then I know I said six steps, but I'm gonna add another step out to this, and it's because it's really important. You need to start recruiting allies, bringing other people in. The reason why you need to do that is because you need to start associating with people who are going to be supporting you in getting to that vision that you want to get to. Right?

A lot of times, the reason why we find ourselves in a rut is because everybody we're surrounded by is actually working against us or working to keep us in the same place that we've always been. Whether it be your friends, your family members, or anything else. Now I'm not telling you to go out there and ditch your family or anything, but what I am telling you is that if you want something in your life, a lot of times that means changing social circles. That means associating yourself with people who you might be a little bit uncomfortable being around because they're so accomplished. Right?

And a lot of times, you know, we tend to hold ourselves back because we don't want to be around people like that. But if you're going to push yourself forward, you need to have people in your life that you'll be able to reach out to to gain actual advice from. And and that's a huge reason why people get stuck is because they actually have nobody in their lives to give them any advice. So how do you do this? How do you go out there and how do you find people like that?

Well, you can start by finding groups in your area. If you're trying to start a business, maybe you can join an entrepreneurial group, right? There's a lot of those around. If you're trying to start investing, maybe you can join an investment club. There's a host of different places you can go.

It ranges from your church to community groups. If you're in school, there's tons of clubs at most universities. And even if you're still in the military, there are definitely different types of social groups you can become a part of on base. So the big thing is, you just need to be open to it, and you need to be reaching out. So that's what I got for this week, guys.

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