Perfection. It’s something we all strive for in our heads. We want to be good at our jobs, be the perfect family man, have six pack abs, and huge bank accounts. But I’ve noticed something from my own life: whenever I’ve thought about perfecting anything, it didn’t happen. In fact, when the thought of perfection entered my mind, I would normally begin a downward spiral. This goes back to being on the range in the Marine Corps. When practicing marksmanship you want a slow steady squeeze of the trigger. And when the weapon fires, it should almost be a surprise to you. But if you think about the shot too much, you end up jerking the trigger and you end up missing the shot. It’s the same thing in life, except, when you think about perfection too much, you end up never taking the shot in the first place.
My greatest successes have, in fact, come out of my greatest failures. This company, Warrior Soul, was created in the aftermath of my failed venture into the gym business. My current relationship, which is awesome, came in the aftermath of my failed marriage – and I couldn’t be happier with my girlfriend. It makes you wonder something: are you hurting yourself by trying to avoid mistakes? Are you setting yourself up for failure by trying to create the perfect life?The truth is that the only way you can ever reach success is if you actually decide to do something. Given that many of these things are not going to go your way, the very act of doing something means that there’s a high chance of defeat. But even if you get defeated, you can learn from it. But the only way you can avoid mistakes is by not doing anything, and if you never do anything, you’ll never find success. So I think it comes down to this: rather than thinking about how we can lead the perfect lives, we should be thinking about how we can make as many mistakes in good faith as possible. I say mistakes in good faith because a necessary component from learning from a mistake is that you try your best. So here is one question that you should ask yourself everyday: What mistake can I make today that I will learn from the most? This will inevitably lead to more swings at bat, and more swings at bat means a greater chance of success.